Whats the best way to deal with your anger?
When I was younger, my first response would have been to hit someone. And I did.
Frequently.
As I have gotten older (I would say matured, but that would be a lie), I have since calmed down and with a lot of effort and will managed to control my anger. I learn't that if people could control my emotions, they could control me. I also began to understand the destructive side of my anger, and that hitting out in anger was not necessarily the best way of getting back at someone. For example, if a guy got me angry, and I beat him senseless, he would get over his injuries... But if he got me angry, and in retaliation I dated his sister.... Oooohhhhh Now that's the stuff of nightmares. Everytime he looked at his sister he would see me... Now that's torture.
Learning to control my emotions has as a result made me a calmer, more relaxed, but more dangerous person, if I get angry, it is usually that I am thinking clearest. And thats not usually a good sign for people.
I do thank God my anger is more in control, for if it wasn't, I would probably be typing this from behind bars, thats if I was even alive to type this now. Anger is not a good emotion it affects blood pressure, and all sorts of other biological processes.
In an attempt to control my anger I tried all sorts of things (besides hitting people). I counted to 10. Took deep breaths. I even managed to walk away once or twice, but in all honesty, none of these really ever worked. Then one day I stumbled on to the perfect anger management process...
Don't get angry in the first place!
Tuesday, 5 August 2008
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You are much calmer than you used to be. The guy I met all those years ago was much more volatile. I think its the result of maturity and the love of a good woman! :o)
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